Saturday, 30 November 2019

Introduction

Thank you for visiting my blog. I hope you weren't expecting something on growing cactus's! This is really about my mother -  a very prickly woman. Persevere and I'm sure you will be find it interesting, informative, poignant and humorous.  Please feel free to leave comments.

Colin


 The first question was, “How do you react to certain people?” With my mother in mind, I completed the questionnaire.

 Are they so unpredictable that you’re constantly on your toes, waiting for the next verbal attack? YES!

When you try to calm them down does it only make them angrier? YES!

Do you feel manipulated, controlled or even lied to sometimes?  YES!

Does this person attempt to get what they want by making you responsible for their feelings.  YES!

Is everything always about them?  YES!

Do you feel that their expectations of you are constantly changing so that you can never do anything right?   YES!

Right now, are you thinking, “I had no idea that anyone else was going through this”? YES!

And so I began my mental health volunteer training with a tutor who had a string of letters after his name: MSc, MCIPD, Cert. Ed., Dip CN, RMN, RGN. However, his rambling stories and lack of teaching skills were more than compensated for by the book he lent me on Borderline Personality Disorder. At last an explanation for my feelings toward my mother!  After over 60 years of guilt, condemnation and a sense of failure as a son. I have an explanation.  It’s not my fault!

As part of my therapy, I started to keep a diary: a record of conversations and events, plus stories my mother told me about her past and her family. I began to piece together the family history and discover who my mother was; who the people were and what the events were that shaped her life. I also discovered the secrets and lies.

 For over 90 years she was like a prickly cactus. But in the final 6 months of her life, against all my expectations, the cactus blossomed and flowered

Friday, 29 November 2019

Vol 1. Chapter 1 - Devil's Acre


Chapter 1

Devil’s Acre

“Skinny Granny” was the name that my mother always called her maternal grandmother. It took me many years to discover her real name. She was, in fact, born Alice Dudman.

Alice was born in 1873 to James and Eliza Dudman. Her older siblings were Eliza (b 1867) and Henry (b 1871). Her father, James died some time between 1873 and 1881. Eliza was left a widow with three young children to support.

They lived at 6 Lewisham Street, Westminster. Now an affluent part of London situated behind Methodist Central Hall in sight of Big Ben and the Houses of Parliament. Back then it was a notorious slum area. In 1850 Charles Dickens called the area, “The Devil's Acre”.

Cardinal Wiseman wrote of it, “Close under the Abbey of Westminster there lie concealed labyrinths of lanes and courts, and alleys and slums, nests of ignorance, vice, depravity, and crime, as well as of squalor, wretchedness, and disease; whose atmosphere is typhus, whose ventilation is cholera; in which swarms of huge and almost countless population, nominally at least, Catholic; haunts of filth, which no sewage committee can reach – dark corners, which no lighting board can brighten.

Population density in the Devil's Acre was not measured in terms of persons per acre, but persons per room.

10 to 12 people frequently lived in one room.  Lewisham Street contained only 15 houses, but over 250 people lived there. Alice’s home, at 6 Lewisham Street, seemed particularly overcrowded: 5 families, 25 people crammed into one house.

Overcrowding made the area vulnerable to infections and there was a high rate of mortality from diseases such as typhoid, cholera and consumption. Perhaps one of these was the cause of death for Alice’s father and her two older siblings. Henry and Eliza Jnr were both dead by 1883.

In, Ragged London, published in 1861, John Hollingshead described the area:

“Enter a narrow street called St. Anne's Lane, glance up at a fearful side-court called St. Anne's Place, and wonder whether such filth and squalor can ever be exceeded. I went up the last-mentioned court, which had every feature of a sewer, and found a long puddle of sewage soaking in the hollow centre. The passages of the low black huts on either side were like old sooty chimneys, and the inhabitants were buried out of sight in the gloom.

Hollingshead went on to describe one street in the Devil's Acre:

I crossed over the road, and entered the openly acknowledged high street of thieves and prostitutes. It is called Pye Street, and has no mock modesty about it—no desire to conceal its real character. Threepenny "homes for travellers" abound on both sides: yellow, sickly, unwholesome places, many of them far below the level of the road, and entered by a kind of pit. Many of the houses have no flooring on their passages; and there is nothing for the barefooted children to stand upon but the black, damp, uneven earth. A child, dirty and nearly naked, was hanging out of one of the old-fashioned casement windows; and in the summer time it is no unusual thing to see about fifty coarse women exhibiting themselves in the same manner. The yards at the back of the houses contain little mountains of ashes and vegetable refuse; and a dust contractor's yard, in the centre of the street, seems to have burst its bounds, and to have nearly poured out its oyster-shells, cabbage-stalks, and broken china into the open thoroughfare. Shorthaired young men, with showy handkerchiefs round their neck, and tight corduroy trousers, were standing at most of the doors, looking pretty sharply about them from under the peaks of their caps. A fiddler was playing a dancing tune to a mixed assembly of thieves and prostitutes, and a morning ball was being arranged on both sides of the pavement. Many of the side streets and courts about here are shored up with black beams to keep the houses from falling, which adds to their wretched appearance

The Rev Frederic William Farrar also described the area:

I think it would have been difficult to have found a spot more full of crime ... The whole street drank hard while such plunder lasted ... an instance of the low life under the shadows of the Abbey. I received a message one day to administer Holy Communion to a dying girl. She was in the last stages of consumption, and her story was to the effect that her husband lived on her wages, which he forced her to obtain by a life of sin ... She summed up her repentance in one sentence: "I have worked very hard, and I am very tired.”

Lewisham Street, itself, is described as:

Lewisham Street, “The worst part of any so far, and nothing worse in the sub-division. A narrow way; open doors the rule; bare passages; bare stairs; dirty children; dirt women; larriking; dark blue as map. Three houses down on the North side, at west end of colour; probably telling of coming demolition. On the other side a common lodging house. Crime here, but only sporadic, and not enough to bar.

Although a slum area, the 250+ residents of Lewisham street pursued many and varied careers: farrier, charwoman, dressmaker, footman, harness maker, crossing sweeper, hawker, musician, fruit dealer, porter, printer, washer, cloth sorter, mangler, cab mender, stableman, errand boy, French polisher, brass finisher, lodging house keeper, shoemaker, commercial traveller, bottle dealer, butcher, cab driver, bricklayer, shirt maker, carpenter, shoe black, billiard maker, costermonger, wood cutter, groom, messenger, harpist, basket maker, traveller, milk carrier and an Irish barrister of law. Not to mention Alice’s own mother’s profession as an “Army worker”.


The Devil's Acre with the Houses of Parliament in  background. A 1872 illustration by Gustave DorĂ©.
  

The hardship, the poverty and the unhealthy conditions no doubt contributed to the utter destitution that was about to befall them and force Alice and Eliza to leave Lewisham Street for good.


Lewisham Street today.
Still dark and narrow


Thursday, 28 November 2019

Vol. 1. Chapter 2 - Destitution


Chapter 2 - Destitution
18th April 2013

The Social Worker from the Complex Care Team came to visit my mum. He broached the subject of the need for her to move into residential care.  She went ballistic and started shouting, “You’re not going to put me away in the workhouse”.


8th February 1884. 

Skinny granny and her mum are declared “destitute” and are admitted into the Fulham Road Workhouse as paupers.

A newspaper  from August 1848 reported on its official opening




The Workhouse, the infirmary and receiving-houses of which are already erected, is to contain 450 inmates…..At five o'clock, the guardians, past and present, with the principal inhabitants of both parishes, to the number of nearly 70, dined together at the Albion Hall, Hammersmith, to celebrate the event; John Gunter, Esq., of Fulham, in the chair. The convivialities of the evening were kept up to a late hour.

Unfortunately, the inmates did not share in the “convivialities” and a report of the British Medical Journal notes that by the 1880's there were 2000 inmates. Alice and her mum had swapped the over crowding of The Devil Acre for the Fulham Palace Road Workhouse.

People ended-up in the workhouse for a variety of reasons. Usually, it was because they were too poor, old or ill to support themselves. This may have resulted from such things as a lack of work during periods of high unemployment, or someone having no family willing or able to provide care for them when they became elderly or sick.

THE STAFF
These are the Workhouse Staff who would have supervised Eliza and little Alice


George COLE
45
Master Of The Workhouse
William Hy. HALL
36
(Late Master)
Charlotte Ann HALL
26
Matron
Caroline DENHAM
37
Assistant Matron
Charles HOLLOWAY
29
Clerk
James DARLING
41
Yardsman
Thomas KNOWLES
35
Porter
William HARRIS
31
Superintendent Of Labour
Mary BIGGS
56
Attendant
Susannah HUMPHREY
51
Nurse
Jessie BRYANT
28
Cook (Dom)
Elizabeth ROWELL
31
Attendant
Jane DUNLEVY
26
Attendant
Mary Ann EDWARDS
68
Midwife
Julia ALLEN
37
Taskmistress
Margaret ROULSTON
40
Supintendent Of Laundry
John SELLICK
57
Engineer (Driver)
William SELLICK
20
Carpenter
Frances SELLICK
26
Dressmaker
Charlotte SELLICK
22
Milliner
Charles DYE
66
Smithy
William TARBET
76
Pantryman
John RILEY
68
Stoker
John WILKINS
70
Stoker
Charles CLARKE
62
Stoker
Elizabeth PAINE
70
Laundress
Sarah FRANEY
48
Servant

ADMISSION
Admission into the Workhouse was first of all by interview. Formal admission into the workhouse proper was authorised by the Board of Guardians at their weekly meetings. However, the workhouse Master could also interview anyone in urgent need of admission.

After having been examined by the medical officer. They would be striped and washed. Typical rules for washing inmates or “patients” as they were called were:

·       Every Patient to be bathed immediately after admission and once a week 
        afterwards.

·       In preparing the bath, the cold water is always to be turned on first.

·       The temperature of the water  must not be below 90°F(32°C) or above 98°F (36°) –
        The water temperature was less than body temperature

·       Every hot-water tap should be provided with a key which should be kept in the 
        permanent charge of an Officer of the Workhouse, and may be entrusted 
        temporarily to the person responsible for the bather, but no one else.

·       Under no circumstances whatever are two Patients to occupy the bath at the 
         same time

·       During the bathing of inmates the room is never to be left without a paid 
        Officer or Servant; at all other times the door is to remain locked and the 
        floor kept dry.

·       Under no pretence whatever is the Patient’s head to be put under water.

Having had their bath, Eliza and Alice would have been given a set of workhouse clothes. Their own clothes would be washed and disinfected and then put into store along with any other possessions they had and only returned to them when they left the workhouse.

Workhouse inmates were strictly segregated into seven classes and each class was given their own dietary menu.
  1. Aged or infirm men.
  2. Able bodied men, and youths above 13.
  3. Youths and boys above seven years old and under 13.
  4. Aged or infirm women
  5. Able-bodied women and girls above 16.
  6. Girls above seven years old and under 16.
  7. Children under 7 seven years of age.

Each class had its own area of the workhouse. This meant that 11 year old Alice was taken away from her mother to a separate wing of the workhouse

LIVING CONDITIONS
Each dormitory had an open fireplace; a lavatory and water-closet in a recess or lobby; in some instances the latter served for two or three wards.

The British Medical Journal reports:

 “Thirty men had used one closet, in which there had been no water for more than a week, and which was in close proximity to their from a lavatory in a recess of the room was so offensive that we suspected a sewer-communication, and soon discovered that there was no trap; indeed it had been lost for some considerable time. Apart from this source of contamination of the ward, there were several cases with offensive discharges : one particularly, a case of cancer, which, no disinfectant being used, rendered the room almost unbearable to the other inmates."

DAILY ROUTINE

Eliza’s  Daily Routine would have been:


Get up
Breakfast.
Work.
Dinner.
Work
Supper.
Bed time.
6am.
6:30 – 7am
7am – 12noon
12noon – 1pm
1pm – 6pm
6pm to 7pm.
8pm

Eliza would have been given mostly domestic jobs to do such as cleaning, or helping in the kitchen or laundry. The financial records of Fulham Workhouse show that they dealt in Oakum. Oakum is old rope, sometimes tarred or knotted. These ropes had to be unpicked inch by inch by the inmates and a day's work would be to unravel 3 lbs. of rope. The Workhouse literally earned money for old rope

11 year old Alice’s daily routine would have been:

6.00-8.00
Rise, make beds, prayers, clean shoes, wash. Prayers and religious instruction.
8.00-9.00
Breakfast. Recreation.
9.00-11.30
Reading, spelling, tables, arithmetic.
11.30-12.30
Working in copy books. Dictation.
12.30-2.00
Dinner. Recreation.
2.00-5.00
Needlework, knitting and domestic employment.
5.00-6.00
Supper. Recreation.
6.00-8.00
Needlework, knitting & domestic employment.
8.00
Prayers. Retire to bed.

Half an hour after the workhouse bell was rung for rising, the Master or Matron performed a roll-call in each section of the workhouse. Communal prayers were read before breakfast and after supper every day.

There were strict Workhouse rules

THE RULES
Any pauper who shall neglect to observe such of the regulations herein contained as are applicable to and binding on him:-
  • Or who shall make any noise when silence is ordered to be kept
  • Or shall use obscene or profane language
  • Or shall by word or deed insult or revile any person
  • Or shall threaten to strike or to assault any person
  • Or shall not duly cleanse his person
  • Or shall refuse or neglect to work, after having been required to do so
  • Or shall pretend sickness
  • Or shall play at cards or other games of chance
  • Or shall misbehave in going to, at, or returning from public worship out of the workhouse, or at prayers in the workhouse
  • Or shall wilfully disobey any lawful order of any officer of the workhouse
SHALL BE DEEMED DISORDERLY

FOOD

The main constituent of the workhouse diet was bread. At breakfast it was supplemented by gruel or porridge — both made from water and oatmeal (or occasionally a mixture of flour and oatmeal). Workhouse broth was usually the water used for boiling the dinner meat, perhaps with a few onions or turnips added. Tea — often without milk — was often provided for the aged and infirm at breakfast, together with a small amount of butter. Supper was usually similar to breakfast.

The mid-day dinner was the meal that varied most, although on several days a week this could just be bread and cheese.

Gruel, to make one pint you need
Oatmeal, 2 oz; treacle, ½ oz; salt and sometimes allspice; water.

After just one week in the Fulham Road Workhouse, Eliza discharged herself and Alice. However, a week later, they were back inside. This time, Eliza was admitted straight into the infirmary.
Medical Care in the Workhouse
"The Fulham Union Infirmary was erected in St Dunstan's Road to the north of the workhouse to provide minimal medical care to the workhouse sick. It opened in 1884 with two doctors and 31 nurses to look after 486 patients, a large proportion (34%) of whom were chronically ill or senile. Leg ulcers were the predominant reason for admission for surgery, whereas medical admissions were for lung disease (bronchitis, pneumonia and TB). Medical cases outnumbered surgical ones threefold." 
The old and infirm are located in separate blocks; there were 60 in the male wards and 153 in the female. For these there are two nurses, with pauper help, and there is one nurse at night, also assisted by paupers. We were glad to learn from the master that the guardians contemplate increasing the staff, for, though the inmates are not sick, they require in many cases as much assistance as children, and it is useless to expect attendance from the pauper helps. There is no doubt that the cunning old hands levy contributions from the helpless before rendering service.
British Medical Journal
The Fulham Palace Road Workhouse became the site of The Charring Cross Hospital